I just wrote myself a letter. This is a first â€“ though I have been writing my whole life in a journal I have kept since I was 9. Through the years I have done various introspective exercises through writing, yoga, dance and meditation, in which Iâ€™ve focused on different areas of myself or literally different parts of me. For example, my heart and eachÂ chakra.Â However, I have never directly written to me. When I was having a difficult time a few months back, my dear friend Eva (introduced in the March Blog) urged me to write a letter to myself and one to my body, reminding me we hold all of our emotions in our body. Well, thank you Eva. I have begun. It is insightful and I definitely encourage you to try doing so in order to see what arises.
For me, it was an experience to value my essence and to understand areas I could work on in a much more balanced way than the inner critic within me. Basically, by writing to yourself, you can take the witness perspective, as if you were giving gentle insight and advice to a friend versus when we are harsh with ourselves. And the bottom line of what surfaced: lots of love and compassion for myself which I sometimes unintentionally deny myself in the business of running this business.
I should also recognize my brother because without him this blog writing wouldnâ€™t have happened as nicely as it did. He is such a good mirror in my life as he has seen me at my best, worst and everything in between. His advice comes from that experience.Â He urged me to write in the right setting. With that suggestion, I have beautiful peaceful music playing, am drinking an herbal concoction he made for me yesterday. (I emulated his recipe and will share it in a future post this month) The sun is rising so I am still in bed and I have the detoxifying facial exfoliant on my face for my mini facial of the day.
The theme for this month is CHANGE in both the microcosm of your life and the macrocosm of the world. This aforementioned writing to myself of which felt so amazing to be as kind as I am to the rest of the world to myself is a part. List out so many things you find yourself saying you should do and forget saying â€œsomeday, one day or maybeâ€ or letting the goals feel like they are for the future. We only have control of what we are doing this very moment. Write by when you would like to achieve the items on your list. Lastly, communicate to someone your top 5 items and when you would like to achieve them by so you can set your mind to it. By telling someone, then you make them â€œexistâ€ and also creates accountability. You are actually giving your possibility a chance by stating it. Don’t forget to reward yourself when you achieve your goal.
A sampling of my goals:
Practice patience with the people closest to me. From today, for the rest of April I would like to challenge myself in keeping patient with my loved ones. How: when things get difficult, I am going to remember what is happening versus how I feel about what is happening.
Achieve some yoga inversions that I have always feared. I have been told (and know) several times that my strength is there for these poses and it is just a matter of getting through the mental blocks of fear for me. How: I am going to try every single day from today moving forward for the month.
Get more hands on with shaffali.com, especially the homepage banners and the social media on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest. How: devote time to each of these everyday and once I have a better understanding of them, then create a schedule for it.
Perhaps these goals above sound mundane to you. However, I have some really exciting ones that involve travel to exotic locations and immersing myself in learning various items to strengthen my knowledge for things that I love â€“ but for this snapshot of my life, this is the sampling.
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